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White folx professional#

In fact, his ultimate vision was for the week to serve as a stepping stone towards liberation and humanity for all Black people-a vision that Black folx are still fighting so hard to make a reality almost a century later. Woodson founded Negro History Week in 1926, he didn’t envision the week to be limited to just a performative celebration of Black excellence. It’s Black History Month, and I figure it’s time I give my two cents about my current feelings on the annual celebration. Chris Emdin when I say that this piece is specifically for the white folx and the rest of y’all too. It will be ok if we do something and it doesn’t work out just right.I’m channeling the spirit of Dr. This illustrates that we have a growth mindset.Īs white folx, we need to release our perfectionism in order to be better allies to our BIPOC friends and colleagues. Try something out for a period of time (six months to a year, for example) and keep iterating on it. It can also help to put things into draft form. Try something, see what happens, and if it doesn’t work, we can learn from it.

White folx trial#

Some useful techniques for releasing perfectionism include trial and error.

Invite them to expand and reframe their thinking, rather than having a narrow definition of perfectionism driving everything.

It can be useful to see and honor where their thinking makes sense, where it would be useful to do things component of it - while acknowledging it’s inside of their perfectionism.

It’s hard for people to learn and shift when they’re defensive.

Sometimes we need to deal with someone else’s perfectionism. We learn to stand on our own two feet because we know we’ll be ok no matter what. I’m still trying to unlearn this.Īs we get clearer on our own value and worth, and learn to have our own integrity, it becomes easier to be imperfect, make mistakes in public, and learn from them. Sometimes, it leads to an identity crisis (who are we if we’re not doing these things and performing perfectionism?).

White folx professional#

When we’ve spent our lives doing this - whether it’s with our body, mind, or trying to be presentable or professional - it takes a lot of unlearning. What’s viewed as appropriate around whiteness (especially when you focus on WASPy norms) and sexism is very limited and this creates a very narrow range of humanness that’s accepted and rewarded.įor white women, trying to be perfect and contorting ourselves to get proximity to power (i.e. We need to understand that we matter and have worth, regardless of whether or not we’re perfect.įor white women, a key piece around perfectionism is wanting to be seen and valued. Is it because we want to be seen as good?

As white folx, we need to look internally and figure out why we’re trying to get things right all the time. Understanding the benefits of releasing perfectionism is easy. When we release perfectionism, we can actually relax into meeting what’s wanted and needed in a situation and show up a lot better. And in situations where our best thinking is needed, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

It can be hard to think when there’s so much pressure to not mess up. One of the most freeing things for me has been releasing my perfectionism. In order to show up better for BIPOCs and ourselves, we need to release that tight grip on perfectionism.

But this kind of perfectionism is not useful or helpful in the fight for racial equity. We don’t want anyone to see our mistakes. As white folx, many of us always need to get things right.